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18 December 2010 @ 07:29 pm
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I cannot imagine feeling close enough to someone that I would think I have any right to an opinion as to whether or when they should have children.

Edit: I may not have said clearly what I was thinking. Rephrased: I cannot imagine feeling as though I had a right to be *consulted* regarding a decision to start a pregnancy.

Single exception: If for some unforeseen reason Dale decided he wanted to father a child (with someone else, obviously, since my tubes are long since tied), I'd expect to be consulted; we're married and that would have a significant effect on our finances.
 
 
amaebiamaebi on December 19th, 2010 03:30 pm (UTC)
It seems as if a very broad swath of folks feel free to step in one others' reproductive choices, to grab the pregnant belly, to critique the [women's] child-raising practices.

When Sheeyun and I were trying some fertility work, people sneered, "You're not adopting? I thought you were liberal!" When we were adopting, I had people telling me that I wasn't ready to parent if we weren't specifically asking for a child tagged as differently abled. (And then of course there's that notion that one adopts to Do Good, which always creeps me out.)

Flowerpot paradigms of womanhood, and socialized control mechanims, at least in part, I think.