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18 December 2010 @ 07:29 pm
Thinking  
I cannot imagine feeling close enough to someone that I would think I have any right to an opinion as to whether or when they should have children.

Edit: I may not have said clearly what I was thinking. Rephrased: I cannot imagine feeling as though I had a right to be *consulted* regarding a decision to start a pregnancy.

Single exception: If for some unforeseen reason Dale decided he wanted to father a child (with someone else, obviously, since my tubes are long since tied), I'd expect to be consulted; we're married and that would have a significant effect on our finances.
 
 
Bladerunnerbldrnrpdx on December 19th, 2010 12:44 am (UTC)
Work in child-related public service or education a while. Those sorts of opinions come pretty fast.
starcat_jewelstarcat_jewel on December 19th, 2010 12:55 am (UTC)
Especially if you're female, when the general consensus seems to be "Of course!" and "RIGHT NOW".
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on December 19th, 2010 01:06 am (UTC)
Okay, I'll be fair -- I have a lot of opinions, but I don't feel that I have any *right* to those opinions.
Miche: archermicheinnz on December 23rd, 2010 06:45 am (UTC)
Of course you have a right to your opinion. You also have the good manners not to express it where it would be unwelcome.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on December 19th, 2010 01:10 am (UTC)
And thank you, because I thought about it some more and came up with a better formulation of what I was thinking: I cannot imagine feeling as though I had a right to be *consulted* regarding a decision to start a pregnancy.

Single exception: If for some unforeseen reason Dale decided he wanted to father a child (on someone else, obviously, since my tubes are long since tied), I'd expect to be consulted; we're married and that would have a significant effect on our finances.
Bladerunnerbldrnrpdx on December 19th, 2010 02:04 am (UTC)
I'd like to think you'd have more to say on the subject than just about the impact on your finances. Emotional issues, legal issues, practical issues of all sorts immediately come to mind.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on December 19th, 2010 02:33 am (UTC)
Possibly, if it were to actually become a question, although none of those actually came to mind when I was phrasing the exception. Fortunately, it is an extremely unlikely thing.