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09 August 2008 @ 08:30 pm
Seven interests  
browngirl was kind enough to select seven of my interests for me to talk about. If you ask me to, I'll do the same for you.
  • alton brown -- He's cute, he's geeky, he doesn't take himself seriously, and he cooks. What's not to like?

  • childfree -- Simply put, I'm not fond of children. I was never very good at being a child when I was one, and I have never wanted children of my own. I label myself as childfree as a statement and as a sort of courtesy. The statement is, "Yes, dammit, I am selfish. I prefer not to take on the responsibility of raising a child and being responsible for it 24/7/365.4." The courtesy is dual: first, it warns off people who are going to be horrified by that attitude; second, it makes the distinction that I recognize some women desperately want to have children and are unable to do so. (I will note that some of my friends have had children who come across, at least on LJ, as not-awful and maybe even tolerable. For short periods of time when they're in good moods.)

  • gender-blind marriage -- I admit that I was rather taken aback by the concept of homosexuality when I was first made aware of it, but that was a long damn time ago. Once I realized that people I knew and respected and cared about were gay, I started wondering why in the world marriage should be limited to apparently opposite-sex couples. I have come to believe that marriage exists in two forms: a religious sacrament for those who believe in it, and a civil contract with vast benefits. I see no reason whatsoever why the civil contract should not be available to anyone who wants to sign up for it.

  • long hair -- I'm moderately stubborn. I have resisted for 28 years the people who have told me "You should cut your hair, it'd be so much cuter," and "You have to cut your hair, long hair is unprofessional," and "What do you mean you never cut your hair?! You have to trim it regularly or it'll all fall out!!!!!!!" (Well, okay, no one has threatened me with it falling out, but close.) I had short hair for nine years: from just before fifth grade until I graduated from high school. I hated it. I looked even dorkier than I do now, and it was a right royal pain in the ass to take care of. When it was short, I had to get it cut and permed every six weeks, I had to use hot rollers and blow dry it and use a curling iron. Long? Never cut it, just wash it, condition it, and braid it before bed. In the morning I brush it out and put it up with a hairstick that fatfred gave me (before that, I used a pen). I admire long hair on women, and I love it on men too.

  • microsoft excel -- Honestly, I think Excel is one of the best things ever to come out of Redmond. I like Access, but find Excel much friendlier. I love Pivot Tables for cross-tabulating data. I love subtotals for doing just that, automagically. I really, really love Data | Text to Columns, because I frequently need to pull just part of the information out of a cell. I probably use Excel for things that I should be doing in Access, but oh well.

  • pronoia -- I think I was introduced to the concept of pronoia by Rob Brezhny. It's "the suspicion the Universe is a conspiracy on your behalf." I tend to be rather more cynical than that, but I keep reminding myself that, well, thought is a kind of force, and belief can change the world.

  • renaissance faires -- Ren Faires have many of the advantages of SF cons: people in interesting garb who don't mind being stared at, interesting things to do, and cool stuff to buy, with one additional benefit: much better food. *grin*
Fat Fred the Otter and Skippy: iotterfatfred on August 10th, 2008 12:59 am (UTC)

So glad you like it!
Poor RWI, my roomie is having to deal with Access.
Most of my interests are self evident, but if you would like to ask...
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 01:42 am (UTC)
You're right, most of yours are pretty clear. But I'll ask about

olias of sunhillow

toy matinee

And, if you wish, your journal title -- "Po'oma Stuff from Skippy". Po'oma looks like it might be Hawaiian, but I'm just guessing.
Steffirecat on August 10th, 2008 01:27 am (UTC)
I was never very good at being a child when I was one

I can relate to that! And I guess it's part of the reason I chose not to have children. (I am OK with other people's children, in small doses.)

I'm fascinated that you get flak for having long hair, since from the opposite side of the fence, I frequently feel that I'm failing at appropriate gender presentation because I don't have long hair.

If you are up for asking me about my interests I'd like that.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 01:48 am (UTC)
Apparently, long hair is juvenile and unprofessional, and women over 30 should have hair not longer than their shoulders. Very very short hair is of course gender-inappropriate. (Read both of those statements with a heaping helping of "Yeah, right.")

As for interests:


andy scott



harner shamanism

mutual degrumplement

no dharma
(no subject) - firecat on August 16th, 2008 12:08 am (UTC) (Expand)
A Wandering Hobbit: drinking tea in jo's kitchenredbird on August 10th, 2008 01:48 am (UTC)
The worst people warn me about if I don't cut my hair is split ends. (Well, and that it won't be of uneven lengths, but I can see that for myself.)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 01:50 am (UTC)
One of the women in my IAAP chapter was a beautician before she became a secretary, and she warns me frequently that it's bad for my hair to not cut it, that it'll get split ends and break off.
(no subject) - redbird on August 10th, 2008 02:30 am (UTC) (Expand)
I'm a mockereusashead on August 10th, 2008 02:17 am (UTC)
I want to play!

And I'm curious as to what you mean by not being good at being a child.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 03:38 pm (UTC)
And I'm curious as to what you mean by not being good at being a child.

I started reading early, and read far above my grade level all through school. This meant I was reading things that my classmates found ludicrous. It also meant I had a much larger vocabulary than most of my agemates, and so I was frequently teased with things like, "What, did you swallow a dictionary or something?"

I skipped first grade, so I was physically smaller and weaker than most of my classmates. This made me unpopular during PE and to some extent at recess.

Despite having been skipped a grade, I tended to be ahead of my classmates academically; this made me unpopular because I skewed the curve (and even when there was no curve, it meant that I was often singled out by the teacher as having the highest scores in the class).

I always got along much better with adults (who were willing to put up with me) than with children my age (who weren't). I didn't really develop decent social skills until late high school, maybe even college.

Regarding interests:




russell hoban


personal essays

jim's big ego
(no subject) - eusashead on August 17th, 2008 05:59 am (UTC) (Expand)
Tiger Lily the Ginger Cattigerbright on August 10th, 2008 03:22 am (UTC)
Wow, your hair must be way healthier than mine. I get split ends and tangles.

I'm about to cut my hair short so that the antifungal shampoo will actually work. We'll see what happens when my scalp is healthy again.

Regarding children: having a special-needs child makes me realize that a good 2/3 of childish misbehavior is being bored or overwhelmed. Avoiding putting the child in a situation where s/he will be either (such as a mostly-adult party, loud situations, dinner at a nice restaurant...) is cruel to the child, never mind the other adults around you.

With airfares as they are, by the time you meet my children they'll be at least a decade old anyway and able to hold their own in conversation. :)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 06:03 pm (UTC)
I think my hair is pretty healthy. There may be split ends, but they don't bother me and they don't frizz.

Regarding children, I'm not even talking about misbehavior; I'm talking about perfectly normal and reasonable things like crying or needing diapers changed. I know that a baby crying is supposed to activate a "take care of the baby" instinct in humans, but I have a different switch, and it activates a "get me the hell out of here right now" instinct.
(no subject) - tigerbright on August 10th, 2008 06:07 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Bladerunnerbldrnrpdx on August 10th, 2008 04:01 am (UTC)
I love watching Alton Brown's 'Good Eats'. I haven't been able to watch his road show yet.
I've never really found the need to use the label "Childfree" even though I am. I occasionally get asked at my work when I'll have kids and most people accept the "I can either work with them or raise them, and I chose working with them". Most people don't need to hear (and when they do, are usually horrified that I'd say this) that I think I'd be a terrifically abusive parent. But I'm great with hanging out or working with them a while and sending them home.
I think my interests are pretty obvious, but if there's something you want to ask about, feel free.
thatwordgrrl on August 10th, 2008 05:49 am (UTC)
Uhhmmm...long hair is unprofessional???

Oh and feel free to ask about any of my interests.

Edited at 2008-08-10 05:51 am (UTC)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 06:05 pm (UTC)
Apparently it's juvenile. I dunno.


charlie kaufman

greg the bunny

rescue me

thursday next

Josh Brownjoshbrown on August 10th, 2008 09:32 am (UTC)
Why not . I'll bite.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 11th, 2008 05:05 pm (UTC)
card games

commedia dell'arte

creative writing



browngirl on August 10th, 2008 02:40 pm (UTC)
I like your answers *even more* than I knew I would.

Reading about 'childfree', 'gender-blind marriage', and 'long hair' right after each other impressed upon me all over again how much trouble is caused by people who cannot leave others alone to live their own lives, whatever it is they are insisting others should or shouldn't do.

Re: the former hairdresser who keeps warning you that your hair will break off if you don't cut it: saying "if you know so much why aren't you still a hairdresser?" would probably be mean, wouldn't it? ;)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 06:06 pm (UTC)
Well, I admit she does know hairdressing -- she does the cuts and color for a couple of other chapter members. And to be fair, she's mostly given up trying to get me to cut mine.
Kats: Maneki Nekowildrider on August 10th, 2008 03:23 pm (UTC)
You have beautiful hair! The only reason I don't grow mine long is because it's just the opposite with me - short, I just dry it and go. *g*

Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 10th, 2008 06:07 pm (UTC)
Very different hair, you and I :-).
Barbrahirah on August 10th, 2008 08:46 pm (UTC)
(blink) You have gorgeous hair! I always envied it. It surprises me greatly that anyone would tell you to cut it.
thatwordgrrl on August 10th, 2008 09:10 pm (UTC)
Apropos of not a bloody thing, but I so HEART that icon, despite not being so much into the slashy.


griffen on August 11th, 2008 12:52 am (UTC)
Please to ask me for seven of my interests. :)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 11th, 2008 09:55 pm (UTC)
alpha lambda delta

breaching experiments

cultural autism


rubik's cubes

the doom thread

(no subject) - griffen on August 11th, 2008 11:36 pm (UTC) (Expand)
laurareylaurarey on August 11th, 2008 05:03 pm (UTC)
I'm beginning to believe we are somehow related. :)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on August 11th, 2008 05:06 pm (UTC)
That would kind of surprise me, but in a pleasant way :-).
Spark_in_darknesssparkindarkness on August 13th, 2008 01:38 pm (UTC)

And I'm with you on the long hair :)