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12 October 2011 @ 06:00 pm
Traits of a Janet  
As you may know, I'm engaged in Year and A Day studies with a Neo-Pagan coven. One of the exercises that I'm having a great deal of trouble with involves researching and, ideally, engaging with a totem (aka animal guide / guiding spirit). Part of my difficulty is that I am a very poor judge of my own character, and see only negative traits in myself, nothing positive.

My mentor disagrees with this assessment. With his permission, I'm posting the following lists of traits, skills, attributes, and tendencies to ask for your input on which ones I appear to have, and which ones I should strive to attain.

This list was developed by Elizabeth Barrette (ysabetwordsmith) and is part of the Greenhaven Tradition Year and A Day study material.



Poll #1786142 Traits
This poll is closed.

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Agility
0(0.0%)
Alertness
2(6.1%)
Ambition
0(0.0%)
Arrogance
0(0.0%)
Beauty
1(3.0%)
Calculation
0(0.0%)
Cautious
5(15.2%)
Challenge
0(0.0%)
Character
6(18.2%)
Chastity
0(0.0%)
Clever
4(12.1%)
Communication
10(30.3%)
Construction
0(0.0%)
Cooperation
2(6.1%)
Courage
3(9.1%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Curious
5(16.7%)
Dancing
0(0.0%)
Decisive
1(3.3%)
Discipline
1(3.3%)
Dreaming
0(0.0%)
Fastidious
1(3.3%)
Ferocity
0(0.0%)
Flying
0(0.0%)
Freedom
0(0.0%)
Friendship
7(23.3%)
Gathering
1(3.3%)
Generosity
7(23.3%)
Gentleness
5(16.7%)
Gratitude
2(6.7%)
Greed
0(0.0%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Guardianship
1(2.9%)
Healing
1(2.9%)
Hearing
2(5.9%)
Helping
7(20.6%)
Holiness
0(0.0%)
Home
3(8.8%)
Honesty
3(8.8%)
Humor
6(17.6%)
Illumination
0(0.0%)
Independence
0(0.0%)
Industrious
3(8.8%)
Insensitivity
0(0.0%)
Inspiration
1(2.9%)
Integrity
7(20.6%)
Invisibility
0(0.0%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Invulnerability
0(0.0%)
Joy
1(2.7%)
Justice
2(5.4%)
Knowledge
10(27.0%)
Leadership
1(2.7%)
Logic
4(10.8%)
Love
5(13.5%)
Loyalty
7(18.9%)
Maturity
3(8.1%)
Memory
1(2.7%)
Messenger
0(0.0%)
Movement
0(0.0%)
Mysterious
0(0.0%)
Nourishment
2(5.4%)
Obedience
1(2.7%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Organization
8(22.2%)
Patience
4(11.1%)
Peace
1(2.8%)
Persistence
5(13.9%)
Playful
2(5.6%)
Power
0(0.0%)
Reliability
3(8.3%)
Respect
3(8.3%)
Restoration
0(0.0%)
Rowdy
0(0.0%)
Selflessness
5(13.9%)
Sensitivity
5(13.9%)
Serenity
0(0.0%)
Silence
0(0.0%)
Singing
0(0.0%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Smelling
0(0.0%)
Stability
4(16.0%)
Stagnation
0(0.0%)
Stamina
1(4.0%)
Steadfast
4(16.0%)
Strength
2(8.0%)
Sweetness
2(8.0%)
Swiftness
0(0.0%)
Swimming
0(0.0%)
Tenderness
3(12.0%)
Transformation
0(0.0%)
Transient
0(0.0%)
Understanding
8(32.0%)
Unity
1(4.0%)
Versatility
0(0.0%)

Please check those traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I display most strongly. Please mark no more than five traits across all questions.

Vision
1(14.3%)
Wisdom
6(85.7%)

Please list up to five of the above traits, skills, or tendencies you feel I should strive to aquire or develop.



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Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 13th, 2011 12:13 am (UTC)
Sorry! The original worksheet is more complicated, having the user go through the list several times to distill down to five, but I didn't think it would be appropriate, helpful, or even possible with LJ's poll technology to try to reproduce that.
Elizabeth Barretteysabetwordsmith on October 13th, 2011 12:40 am (UTC)
Yes...
It drove me nuts too, trying to narrow this down to 5, and I wrote the exercise. Working with a group, I would probably have said "check how many you think apply" and then looked to see which ones got the most votes. But it looks like this approach is working, it's just challenging to figure out which are the most prominent traits.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 13th, 2011 01:27 am (UTC)
Re: Yes...
I'm thinking that I'll give it a day or so; see if any strong trends pop up. If not, I'll do a run-off.
vonandmoggy on October 13th, 2011 02:19 am (UTC)
Re: Yes...
You're definitely seeing trends...that's really pretty neat. You should be smiling, your friends seem to agree on what a cool person you are! <3
fatcookfatcook on October 12th, 2011 10:38 pm (UTC)
Can I vote for humor twice?
Only five is not FAIR!
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 13th, 2011 12:13 am (UTC)
Sorry! The original worksheet is more complicated, having the user go through the list several times to distill down to five, but I didn't think it would be appropriate, helpful, or even possible with LJ's poll technology to try to reproduce that.
Fat Fred the Otter and Skippy: iotterfatfred on October 13th, 2011 01:07 am (UTC)

I've checked what seems to show through here the most.
vonandmoggy on October 13th, 2011 02:20 am (UTC)
Oh crap, I screwed it up...I'll have to redo it. What a long day...sorry! Hang on...:)

Edited: I didn't follow instructions at first and voted for too many...I've picked just 5 now.

Edited at 2011-10-13 02:23 am (UTC)
Johnjohnpalmer on October 13th, 2011 06:00 am (UTC)
Um. Your mentor disagrees with your ability to see negative stuff about yourself, or disagrees that the stuff to be seen is all negative?

One way some shamanic folks do this is just to journey and see what power animals are calling out. The traits of the animal aren't always important, but they can turn out to be very interesting matches.

For example, I work with Raven - who legends say brought the sun to earth. Well, I didn't think "I'd like to work with a bringer of warmth" but I think it's very fitting.

I also work with snake - it's a very fitting match, though I didn't understand it at all at first.

(Clearly, I'm not suggesting this way is "better" - just mentioning that it exists.)
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 13th, 2011 12:16 pm (UTC)
He disagrees with my assessment that I have only negative traits, no positive ones.
Johnjohnpalmer on October 13th, 2011 04:41 pm (UTC)
Okay, but....

Herm.

Okay:

Here's my guess. For whatever reason, you don't feel comfortable applying positive traits to yourself. Maybe you sincerely don't think they're true, maybe you're so afraid of being a braggart that you just can't, maybe you think the world exists based on a premise that Janet Miles is not X_Positive_Trait, and if you accept that you are X_Positive_Trait, the world will cease to exist entirely... the reason doesn't matter so much.

But if you want to work with any kind of power, you have to be willing to accept truths, even if they're outside of your comfort zone, and that includes learning to accept positive statements about yourself. Denial of reality when trying to affect it is always a bad thing.

And I'm not saying that this is a bad thing about you or that it shows some kind of failure on your part. I'm saying that, okay, if you have a sore knee, and you want to run a marathon, you have to work on fixing that knee because you don't want to run a marathon while ignoring a sore knee... it could cause a more serious knee injury, or even if it's not an injury, you might stumble because your knee hurts, hurting yourself or someone else.

Well, having a hard time accepting positive things about yourself is a sore knee in this instance. It's avoidance of a truth that might be vital.

All MHO, and so forth - but I hope you'll consider the issues I'm raising here.
Johnjohnpalmer on October 13th, 2011 04:50 pm (UTC)
Okay, I answered the survey, but one thing that's *vitally* important here: if I said something you should acquire or develop, it does *not* mean that I consider it something you're weak at. I could say that I need to develop my math skills - that doesn't mean my math skills are weak; in fact, it means it's an advantage I need to use more.

So, what I listed was stuff that stuck out as "boy, if someone gave me attribute pills, what do *I* think, on a kind of gut level, would I think Janet should take to make Janet Miles more like the Platonic ideal of Janet Miles?"

(Does the idea of attribute pills - take them and increase this attribute - make sense or is it something that only makes sense to me? :-) )