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29 October 2008 @ 02:24 pm
A meme I can get behind, beside, along with, pick your pro^Heposition  
I am in a modern, egalitarian, heterosexual marriage, and neither need nor want it "protected" by bigots who think that so-called gay marriage hurts it somehow.

My marriage, being freely entered into and continued because it brings us both contentment, is not threatened by the opportunity for others to form their own bonds, however they may want to negotiate them. I am concerned for people who enter into marriage without reflection and discussion, but if they're legally capable of consent, that's up to them.

I believe that no one should be forced into marriage or forced to stay in a loveless marriage; neither should anyone legally capable of consent be prohibited from entering into a marriage of their choice. (I do have some concerns about consanguinity, but since pregnancy is no longer an inevitable consequence of sexual activity, I'm willing to reserve judgment there.)

I believe that religious denominations have the right to decide who may or may not be married under the rules of their church, but that they do not have the right to decide who may or may not be married under the rules of other churches and the laws of the state and of the nation.

I believe the "full faith and credit" clause of the US Constitution should override any state attempts to refuse to recognize marriages performed in other states.
 
 
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fatcook: Angry-Annoyedfatcook on October 29th, 2008 06:54 pm (UTC)
Here's hoping 102 goes down in flames!!
Janet Miles, CAP-OM: rightsjanetmiles on October 29th, 2008 07:35 pm (UTC)
So mote it be.
Ayesha: Blue Mandelbrot Spiralbrowngirl on October 29th, 2008 06:59 pm (UTC)
I can't post this myself, but I can cheer my friends who do. *cheers*
Adrian Turtleadrian_turtle on October 29th, 2008 08:08 pm (UTC)
sociological gloss
From way over here, it looks like you are a feminist in a heterosexual marriage where you negotiate with your husband (or perhaps negotiated with your fiance long ago) as an equal partner to decide what your marriage would be like. You didn't just take the standard patriarchal model of what a "wife" was supposed to do, and what a "husband" was supposed to do. According to traditional marriage, which *has* been crumbling for the last 2 generations, questions of whether/when to have children, who will do the dishes, who will control how much of the finances--these are not matters to be negotiated.

Of course gay marriage doesn't hurt your marriage. Making it explicit that your marriage is a freely chosen partnership makes you want to celebrate, not leave. If a marriage is threatened by that knowledge (like those marriages threatened by birth control, no-fault divorce, and the new liberal trend of not calling the children of single parents "bastards"), I'll go so far as to say the world will be better without those particular marriages.
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 29th, 2008 08:33 pm (UTC)
Re: sociological gloss
Those are really good points. I'll do that. Thank you!
(Anonymous) on October 30th, 2008 03:04 am (UTC)
Re: sociological gloss
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<the new liberal trend of not calling the children of single parents "bastards">

This is one loberal trend I heartly support! The child is not acountable for the actions of the parrent!

Also, am I also a feminist since I also have a marrage that is an equal partnership?

Younger Brother
Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on October 30th, 2008 12:02 pm (UTC)
Re: sociological gloss
I know that some people would say that a man cannot be a feminist, but rather an ally. Me, I figure that if you support equal access to and treatment by the law, you're a feminist.
(Anonymous) on October 31st, 2008 12:16 am (UTC)
Re: sociological gloss
Useing logic is not fair when I am trying to cause trouble! But truthfully I prefer to think of myself as being for equal rights for all, rather than just one group.

Younger Brother
starcat_jewel: gay issuesstarcat_jewel on October 29th, 2008 10:21 pm (UTC)
Hear, hear! Well said.
Spark_in_darknesssparkindarkness on November 2nd, 2008 03:10 am (UTC)
Agreed wholeheartedly

I am amazed every day that i wake up and fine my gay marriage hasn't caused my neighbours to divorce. Damned, we're failing the insidious gay agenda!
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Janet Miles, CAP-OMjanetmiles on November 6th, 2008 01:40 pm (UTC)
By all means, and thank you! Feel free to link back here if you wish.